How to Sound Close (Even if you’re Hundreds of Miles Away)
When you’re not sitting across from each other resting your elbows on the same desk, your forks on the same table, or your heads on the same pillow, you need a substitute for intimacy . how can you create closeness when the two of you are hundreds of miles apart? how can you make the person you’re talking to on the phone feel special when you can’t pat their back or give them a little hug?
The answer is simple . just use your caller’s name far more often than you would in person.In fact, shower your Conversations with his or her name. when your listener hears it, it’s like receiving verbal caress:
“thanks, Sam. “
“Let’s do it , Betty.”
“Hey, Demetri, why not? “
“It’s really been good talking to you , Kathi.”
Saying a person’s name too often in face -to -face conversation sound manipulative. however, on the phone the effect is dramatically different. if you heard someone say your name ,even if you were being jostled around in a big noisy crowd, you’d perk up and listen,. likewise, when your phone partner hears his or her own name coming through the receiver, it commands attention and recreates the familiarity the phone robs from you.
If your listener is drifting, it brings him right back . If she’s opening mail, she stops. If he’s Picking his teeth , he pulls The pick out. When you say someone’s name on the phone, it’s Like yanking the person into the room with you
Make Your Girlfriend Want You More
If you want to make your girlfriend want you more there’s a few tricks you can try. Most men don’t realize that they have all the power when it comes to whether or not their girlfriend falls madly in love with them. Once she’s interested in you it’s up to you what you do with that interest.
If you want to keep your girlfriend you have to start paying close attention to everything she says. Women love men who are intuitive and understand what they are feeling. Obviously you can’t read her mind but you can get a lot of insight into what she’s thinking by listening to the things that are important to her. A woman is taken back when a man asks her pointed questions about things in her life. If you want to make your girlfriend want you more ask her about her friends. Use their names in conversation. Make small talk about her job and be specific when you do, asking her about a project she mentioned or a co-worker she was having friction with. She’ll be amazed that you remembered those small details and it will make her feel as though you are truly focused only on her.
Just as important as it is to listen to her you need to talk to her too. If you want to make your girlfriend want you more be open about your life. If she asks you a question don’t just give her a one word answer. Elaborate and share. Women love this it makes them feel as though you trust them and want to include them in your life.
You can also make your girlfriend want you more if you ask her opinion about things. It doesn’t matter if it’s something small or large. Just including her will make her feel as though she’s the most important person in your life. She wants to be included in helping you decide things, so allow her that.
Safe Travel Tips For Women, Have a Fun, Relaxing Trip While Staying Safe
So, you’re taking a trip. How exciting! But you’re a little nervous, also. Some of your friends and family scoff. They tell you that as a female you shouldn’t travel alone, it’s not safe! Consider these guidelines to help insure your safety so you can have the time of your life.
Remember to follow the same basic safety techniques you use everyday. Always be alert and aware of your surroundings, especially the people. Just as you would at home, walk with purpose, look and act confident. Keep your head up and eyes scanning. Although brief eye contact can demonstrate confidence in some places prolonged eye contact is an invitation to flirt or may even provoke aggressive behavior from strangers.
Watch the crowd. Thieves prefer large crowds for pick pocketing. Carry your bag close to you, under your arm, against your side. Carry extra cash on your body- perhaps in your bra or stockings in case you are separated from your bag.
Don’t bring your bling. Besides the possibility of losing it or having it stolen, displaying expensive jewelry may send a message that you have more and may be worth robbing. Although you may consider buying and wearing a cheap wedding ring to give the impression that you have an escort. This may also help to avoid any unwanted attention from trolling men.
Consider dressing like local women. It may be best to try to blend in rather than stand out as a tourist. You should at least dress modestly. In many countries short skirts and bare bellies are offensive and can get you some attention you could do without.
Things to have in your bag: Flashlight, cell phone-if there is service, snack, ID, whatever over-the-counter medicines you may need and, of course, a camera to get pictures of all the great places you visit so you can show your skeptical friends when you get home.
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Recession a hurdle for reviving Nalanda university
Global recession is posing a hurdle to the revival of Nalanda University, the world’s oldest centre of learning, says Nobel Laureate Amartya Sen.
‘This is not a very good time to collect funds for the project,’ Sen told IANS, when asked whether the economic meltdown had impacted the $1-billion (Rs.50-billion/Rs.5,000-crore) project.
‘We are yet to launch our fundraising bid,’ he said.
Currently the Lamont professor of Harvard University, Sen heads the Nalanda Mentor Group (NMG) that is overseeing the opening of an international university at the ancient site of Buddhist learning at Nalanda in Bihar.
The project involves setting up an international centre of education and learning like the ancient university, which drew students and scholars from countries and places such as South Korea, Japan, China, Tibet, Persia and Turkey during its existence from the 5th century to the late 12th century.
Sen, who won the Nobel Prize for economics in 1998, said some official procedures were still left before the fund-raising stage arrives.
‘First, the Nalanda Mentor Group will present a report at the fifth East Asian Scholars Summit (EAS). Then the government has to prepare the ground for an agreement to be inked by the EAS member-countries. Parliament will also have to enact a law approving the international status of the university,’ he said.
Sen was simultaneously hopeful and sceptical about the economic situation easing by the time the NMG begins scouting for funds.
‘I am hoping that the grip of the present recession will be lighter then. But then I am not certain,’ added the former Master of Trinity College of Cambridge University, who visited the site of the proposed university along with other NMG members.
Former president A.P.J. Abdul Kalam had taken the initiative three years ago to make the project happen.
The Bihar government has already acquired land near the original Nalanda site for the proposed university, which was earlier scheduled to start in 2010.
